That scarf and those boots you’re wearing, do you like them? The scarf is amazing, you always get compliments on it, you worked hard to pay for it and it’s just the right kind of piece to keep your wardrobe diverse. It’s a pretty good scarf, I have to admit. You should take it on adventures, wear it to all kinds of events, and lovingly place it on a wooden hanger that keeps it crease-free. Keep that scarf by your side and, if you want to continue living out your storybook clothing item-human love affair, don’t ever, ever lend it out to a girl.
Can you borrow that? Define “can” and “borrow.” I mean, theoretically, you will look like a huge ass if you say, “No, I love this item and would like to see it some time in the near future.” That’s just not something friends do. And it’s doubtful that “borrow” is an appropriate word, given how often the clothing items we lend end up just finding their cottony way into our wardrobe rotation. It’s a sad, profound moment when your out with a girlfriend, looking across the table and thinking to yourself, “Jesus Christ, is that my sweater?” or when you check your Instagram news feed and some chick is wearing your favorite wellies, your thought, “what the hell is she thinking? does she not understand borrowing etiquette, I hope one day she can afford her own?”. You almost start to feel sorry for the “borrower”.
Which brings me to these few tips:
If you love a piece of your wardrobe so much, you would marry it – simply don’t lend it out.
If you are the “borrower” dont be a brat, return the items within 5-7 business days, it’s practically like a business deal, your borrowing something someone else worked really hard for.
Don’t lie if you happen to rip a dress or stain a tee. Own up to what happened (like we said, no one is immune to accidents) and try to remedy it as quickly as possible. If it needs to be dry-cleaned or taken to a tailor, it should be your responsibility to cover the costs.
Be honest about your size. You may both wear size 27 jeans, but your C-cups will definitely stretch out her A-cup knit tops.
If you borrowed something months ago and feel like its yours, you’re wrong. It’s wrong, you’re wrong and it’s tacky.
This post really speaks to me, in some way I see my closet as some kind of stylist room, just waiting to be browsed through by my friends to dress them and put a smile on their faces. As well I look to their closets to fill any voids when I’ve got an event and refuse to spend money, but the etiquette is there, we all have an understanding. I call us greedy, but we just have a love for an amazing pair of shoes when we see them, and that’s not a crime, is it?
DON’T BE TACKY.